Secure in Christ: Common Humanity

Life does not discriminate; it happens to us all. One of the worst emotions to experience is loneliness. Have you ever been surrounded by people and felt disconnected, closed off, or not considered? Have you ever felt like no one understood what was happening to you, what you were going through, or why you feel […]

Secure in Christ: Mentalizing

The world we experience begins in our minds. Our thoughts and expectations form our dispositions and beliefs about ourselves. Ultimately, this affects how we see the world and the people we encounter. Have you ever tried giving people—even yourself— the benefit of the doubt and just couldn’t? People proved you right too many times for […]

Secure in Christ: Self-Awareness of Emotions

Ignoring pain causes more pain This post will be a little different. This post comes from a more personal stance than the previous installments. I did not post at all last week because I was practicing what this post is all about. As a preacher I believe that I cannot feed God’s people anything I […]

Secure in Christ: Self-Awareness of Thoughts

The letter to the Roman church is one of the most well-known books of the Bible. It is also one of the most quoted. Romans 12:2 rings true when it comes to becoming more secure with who we are for ourselves primarily, and secondly, for those we love: “Do not be conformed to this world, […]

Secure in Christ: An Introduction to Compassionate Self-Awareness

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.” — August Wilson Up to this point we have done a lot of work—we know our attachment styles, […]

Secure in Christ: Attachment Figures

Words Needed to Know: Mental representation Object permanence For the last two weeks we have been identifying our patterns and relations to love. We’ve assessed our levels of anxiety and avoidance and the breakdown of how our predispositions influence our thoughts and actions through whichever of the four attachment/relationship styles we fall into. Today we […]

Secure in Christ: Attachment Styles

Last week we started off by looking at attachment patterns and our worldview when it comes to how we relate to love. We looked at anxiety, avoidance, and security and at the end we assessed ourselves on how much anxiety and avoidance we have in relationships. For the assessment I scored a 6 in the […]

Secure in Christ: Love Connections

For the next two months you and I will be traveling on a path that involves immense levels of self reflection, vulnerability, conviction, and a flurry of thoughts and emotions. You and I will be on a journey filled with healing, newness, and hope. You and I are going to heal. This series, Secure in […]